A letter to the woman I thought ruined my life...

During the last few months, I have written countless notes of what I would like to say to this person... Most of them included lots of fuck you, sorry your husband isn't enough you had to look elsewhere, and many other hurtful angry comments. I've decided to sit down and write an updated version.

Dear You,

I have spent so much time and energy hating you for what you guys have done to me and my life... For the betrayal of our friendship... for the lies, and miscommunication. I still feel this, fuck you attitude towards you, but it's a little more peaceful of a fuck you.

I want to start off by thanking you. Without this complete betrayal of our friendship and my trust, I would not be where I am today realizing my worth. I've learned so much during this process. I learned that I should not have to change who I am or what I do to fit into any kind of box to please my partner. I learned that I am worthy of unconditional love and understanding. I learned that I have to trust my gut instinct, and that my intuition is always right. 

I really hope one day you realize, it's not the best idea to try and get your married best friend into a poly relationship, feed him lines that is what it is, and continue to hide and lie while under that umbrella.

 Dude, you are giving a bad name to those in open honest poly relationships. 

Thank you for turning my world upside down, showing your (and his) true colors. 

Because without this push, I would be most likely forever trying to be the 'perfect person' and forever falling short of unrealistic expectations. I wouldn't have been able to see a glimpse of the strong independent woman that I am.

Thank you, and in the same breath..... fuck you.

Love Always and forever

Gabby